Inspiration. It’s a word that is used a lot nowadays, but what exactly does it mean to be one? For many people with disabilities, being an inspiration is a mixed bag. It can be a positive feeling to be an inspiration to someone, but also demeaning when your worth is dependent on being an inspiration. So many times I’ve struggled with guilt over my feelings of sadness, anger, and insecurity. Why? Because those feelings aren’t inspiring. In addition to my worrying about being a burden, because I’m disabled, I feel like I should at least be inspirational. I worry that if I’m not an inspirational disabled person, my worth is less. I know that’s not true, but it is a thought I’ve had.
There’s a term in the disability community, “inspiration porn”, that refers to the belief that disabled people exist mainly to motivate and inspire able-bodied people. Most of the time, people with disabilities are just living our lives. We’re not heroes for doing so. We shouldn’t be the basis of grace and everything good and holy. People with disabilities are just people—not heroes, not idols, just people.
That’s not to say I always mind being considered inspirational, because I don’t. Many times I’m fulfilled by the thought that I might give people some perspective or strength to keep going in their own battles. In fact, that’s a big reason behind my writing this blog. I want people to know that it is always possible to keep going, no matter what. So there are circumstances where I like being an inspiration, and then some situations where I just want to be myself.
For example, in class at school I just want to be known for being a good student—not a student with cerebral palsy, not an inspiration. I don’t want those aspects of my identity to matter when I’m trying to learn. I know it’s not that simple, but it’s the way I wish things were. Anyway, I was reading a book in my Anatomy class one afternoon when my teacher said, “Ainsley, I heard you read a million words this school year.”
(My school has an Accelerated Reading program where students are recognized for reading one million words over the course of the school year.)
“Yes ma’am,” I told her, smiling because I thought she was about to congratulate me. Instead, what she said next made me falter a little.
“That’s just…so inspiring, you know?” she gushed.
I smiled and thanked her politely at what I knew was supposed to be a compliment, but it didn’t feel like one. To be clear, I like being recognized for my achievements. But as The Mighty member Kati Shelton said so well, I want my achievements to be recognized for what they are—not for what they are in spite of my disability.
To be honest, reading comes easily to me—in a world where not many things do. While other children were walking and running and playing outside, I was reading. I inhaled words like they were air. Reading is not something that my cerebral palsy makes challenging. And I know she knew that. I maintained an A in her class all year long. I read the material she assigned to our class and comprehended it. I don’t say that to brag but to convey my frustration with my reading a million words being considered inspiring. Something that is easy is not inspiring—even though I have cerebral palsy. My waking up in the morning is not inspiring. My speaking up in class is not inspiring. My everyday life is not inspiring just because I have a disability.
I don’t want all of my achievements to be considered inspiring because it diminishes my harder ones. Things like learning to ride a horse, graduating from occupational therapy, relearning how to walk and run… I’m fine if people consider those accomplishments inspirational because they were hard. It took so much effort to do those very physical things because I have cerebral palsy. That’s what I think an inspiration is or does: someone keeps pushing through even when things are hard.
I’m not necessarily an inspiration just because I’m me. If people want to say I’m an inspirational person because I’ve achieved things that are difficult for me, that’s fine. I’ll accept that. I won’t accept people lowering their expectations of what I’m capable of doing. If I do something that’s easy, there’s nothing there to overcome. An inspirational person is one who overcomes their obstacles. And for me, good motivation is the thought that I might be helping people see what’s possible.
I like being considered an inspiration sometimes. But I’m not just someone who could be considered inspirational; I’m a person first. I’m myself first.